Would You like to experience Autism?
Episode 8: Would you like to experience
Missing out, Falling Behind,
Misunderstanding, Depression ?
Silly question really – who would actually ‘like’ to experience those things..!
However I think it would be fair to say that we all have experienced most or all of these feelings.
And we are keen to avoid them if we can. More about the importance of that emotion, later.
You Experience Missing out, Falling behind, etc? This Episode is not difficult, it will be easy for you to imagine, since you have been observing your son or daughter (or the Child in your care) missing out for many years.
If before the age of 8 to 9 you have given the gift of Junior Real World Training to your Boy or Girl (or decided that you will give it) then you will find that his.her willingness to “step out of his.her comfort zone” and see what is really going on in the Real World is becoming far more frequent, certainly much more than if you hadn’t done the Junior Training.
As a result, your Boy.Girl will understand the World far better than he.she would have done otherwise, meaning his.her degree/level of autism is far less than it would otherwise be.
Furthermore, his.her willingness to participate in the full Real-World Training (over age 8+ usually) will also be greater.
Why is there a minimum age for the full Real World Training? Because there is a limit to what you can teach a young more-autistic person until he.she reaches the age of around 8,
for two reasons:
(1) Comprehension of concepts up to that age is, of course, limited – and
(2) Contentment with Own World security up to that age is relatively high, the need to change low.
Why? Because depending on your young person’s degree of autism, it is likely that until around age 7 and up to 9 or 10, his.her awareness of “missing out” is generally not great.
But your boy or girl does continue to develop awareness, even if it is at an increasingly divergent rate compared to others. As the feeling of “missing out” grows, and if there are no strategies in place to bring him.her out of him.herself, habits can start to set in for life, defeatism and depression grow.
Fortunately, it is around this age that the Full “Real-World” Training begins. This Site does not contain that Training yet, but if you are in this place right now I can correspond with you and send you what I have to date. Email me here.
Funnily enough, it is also the time that conventional therapy and Parents’ ambitious hopes for a more-autistic person start to tail off! I can still hear a mum I knew well during the autistic school days, whom I met 5 years or so later, talking of her now 9 year-old Child: “Well, Jake is happy enough pottering around quietly by himself. We kind of leave him to it these days”.
Jake and others are at a pivotal point. Now that they are more-aware of missing out, their pain is also becoming more intense.
As I said at the start of this Episode, keenness to avoid that pain is at its greatest. This is our opportunity to harness that pain to make fundamental changes.
As Tony Robbins would say, “you can make pain your friend”. It is our strongest motivator to want Change to happen. If Tony is getting you fired up to make a Change, he advises you to bring all your dissatisfactions together at the one time, and to really intensely feel those combined pains, and with that happening visualise what you want instead. It is very effective.
And we use the same process for introducing the full Real World Training to our Loved One when the time comes.
We then provide the “Real-World-Facing” solution appealingly, (the method to do this is described in the Training of course) so our Children will remember that day, an epiphany occasion. They will refer back to that day for renewal of their determination, and to remind themselves of all the Rewards they receive each time they make an “out-of-comfort-zone-effort” .
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